This is a phrase many people say after a difficult or intervention-heavy birth. It often lingers for a long time – even when doctors say everything "went well".

You might find it difficult to bond with your baby, that breastfeeding doesn't feel right or is even stressful, or that you're emotionally distancing yourself without understanding why. Some people also describe feeling like strangers to their partners or family members because no one truly understands what they've been through – and what still lingers within them.

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You're told, "main thing is the baby is healthy".
And yes – of course that's important. But at the same time, another, quiet question arises: "Doesn't anybody even care about me?"
This internal tension often remains unresolved and is rarely honestly examined.

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Coherence coaching focuses precisely on this inner logic. We don't just look at the event of birth, but at the meaning that has developed from it: What has your experience "taught" you about yourself, your body, your role as a parent, or about closeness and trust? Why does connection sometimes feel difficult, even though you desire it? Why does your inner self react to certain situations with withdrawal, sadness, or inner emptiness?

Instead of correcting or ignoring these reactions, we make them understandable. When it becomes clear how meaningful these inner truths are, something can change – not through pressure or positive thinking, but through a new understanding.

This creates space to bring yourself back into what has happened and to slowly experience more connection again – with yourself, with your baby and with the people around you.